I have shown in the blog posts that have preceded this one how seemingly inexplicable human actions are rational. Now let me extend that into emotions. Are emotions rational? Isn’t anger the irrational emotion and isn’t fright antithetical to rational choice. Surely, we’re not always rational. We do get angry and we do get scared. But are we rational when in anger or in fright.
Let me start with anger. Anger seems irrational but nobody would be angry if it didn’t change a thing. People get angry with others so that they may express discontent on actions of others and force them to amend their ways. If a person isn’t complying with your orders, you may use ‘anger’ as a tool to extract work. But we don’t get angry with everybody, especially not with our teachers or superiors or employers. That is because we’re scared of being too angry and hence spoiling the relationship with that person, especially if that person is critical to your future. There have been psychological experiments that have shown that people don’t drop hot teapots if they perceive it to be expensive. Similarly people don’t get angry if anger is too ‘costly’ as it so often when dealing with superiors. That follows neatly into the second rational emotion in discussion here-“fright”.
Getting scared is the most rational thing ever. In fact if we didn’t get scared of heights or of snakes, we wouldn’t survive in this dangerous world. If we’re scared of heights, that’s because we are overcautious about falling off a cliff. Compared to the loss of life, the cost of ‘fear’ is so low that it is perfectly rational to get scared. Getting scared is very cheap. So unless you’re applying for a job as a skydiver or are trying to impress your girl by jumping between buildings, acrophobia (fear of heights) is rational. Even when fear may seem irrational, it is not. For example, fear of a particular person maybe rational if that person would make your day worse. Fear of examinations is healthy and rational in quest for high grades. But most importantly, fear of death is what makes us all act rationally. Loss of life or lifestyle is the strongest motivation behind employment and fiscal prudence. If we didn’t fear bankruptcy, we would all be spendthrifts. Sure, we fear some things more than other things. That depends on the cost of mishaps. We fear snakes more than houseflies because a housefly is just a nuisance while snakes are agents of death.
Angry people get work done but are seen badly by others. In choosing to be angry, they have just traded off relationship brownie points for discipline. Some people get angry for seemingly petty matters, but that is nothing but an advertisement of their strictness, of their disdain even for trivial errors. Anger is undoubtedly very costly in terms of possible loss of relationships and we use it more often than rational choice would suggest. Maybe that’s because we also value ‘self-respect’ and hence get angry when the respect we thought we ought to get doesn’t come. In that sense, anger or frustration is a rational response to feeling low. It shows that you have a certain amount of resistance to being humiliated and when the threshold is surpassed your willing to risk your relationship with the other person, if that person continues humiliating you. We gamble by being angry so that the other person is aware of the risk of losing their relationship with you and that’s best reason I have for why people get angry with others. Classical game theory works here. When you know that the other person feels negatively about being shouted at, he is disincentivized from doing things that make you angry. For why we get scared, try standing on the edge of a cliff sometime and you will know!